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It’s giving season, in more ways than one, so Honey Wyatt recommends the sex toys and couples experiences to give your nearest and dearest this Christmas

‘Tis the damn season where we’re back to scrabbling around for gifts, and with it, wondering what will bring those around us the most joy.

A panettone in a Christmas-embellished tin might not  bring much joy once the festive season is over, and it’s slowly becoming more stale on your kitchen counter; nor will the socks that will eventually become hole-ridden and bobbly. 

Whether you’re buying for your nearest and dearest, or you’ve been roped in to buy a gift for a not-so-close colleague or associate, there’s one thing that unites us all: sex.

It’s the reason we’re here, and the gift that keeps on giving. The best part of all: everyone does it, in one form or another. Sextras has sampled the best sexy gifts, from vibrators and dildos, to lubes and massage oils, and libido chocolates.

Get in the mood

We’re living in (dare I say?) unprecedented times: global political turmoil, a climate crisis, and on top of all that, we’re forced to work (can you imagine?!). 

No wonder Gen Z has the lowest libido of any generation – therapist Alison Walsh advises getting off your devices and grounding in the body is the best way to reconnect.

For Play couple’s sex chocolates

For: the couple in need of a date night

Your couple friends looking to move away from all work, to more play, may enjoy For Play, a delightful sweet treat that can boost their foreplay game. 

Depending on the couple, choose from a combination of ‘his’ and ‘hers’ artisanal chocolates, each containing adaptogens selected to increase their libido. Packs come with their own sexy playing cards to help simmer the connection as the effects of the chocolate kick in.

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Read more: Why is Gen Z having less sex?

Dame massage oil

For: someone who (respectfully) needs to chill

We all have that  friend who struggles to find the time or headspace to get in the mood for sex. Well, female-founded sexual wellness brand Dame has concocted a delightfully seasonal-scented cardamom and sandalwood massage oil, which doubles as an intimate oil that can be used internally.

Whether they complain about their bodily aches and pains (honestly, at their age!), wonder why they can’t get out of their head during sex, or simply want to spice up their foreplay game, give them an oily nudge to lather up the willing party up and get knuckles-deep.

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Best sex toys for beginners

Smile Makers the Whisperer – £34.95

For: the single friend who lives at home or in a tiny flat; or a stocking stuffer for a sibling

Need I remind you – we are in a housing crisis, people! And there’s nothing that will snap you out of the mood more quickly than worrying about your housemates or family (god forbid) hearing you get off, particularly as a sex toy novice.

Thankfully, Smile Makers Collection has created the buttery-soft solution to muffling your masturbation sesh: The Whisperer. Not only is it oh-so-soft (it was designed in collaboration with Mumsnet for mums, or anyone else, getting back into sex) but it’s so quiet you could forget it's there.

Though, having used it myself, both solo and with a partner, I can confidently say this will be a reliable vibrator anyone can come back to.

Listen: Having Sex After Birth (with Smile Makers Collection)

Bellesa WhisperVibe™ or WhisperRabbit™

While Smile Makers’ stealth tech is a great starting point for clitoral stimulation, Bellesa’s vibe and rabbit extend that discretion to the g-spot. 

At nearly five inches long, the WhisperVibe is curved to hit the upper wall of the vagina, and the rabbit adds a tongue-shaped clit stimulator to that for double the sensations. 

To top it all off, they’re waterproof and pink (very Sextras) – plus available to pre-order now.

Best sex toys for couples

So Divine Je t’aime heart vibrator

For: the trinket girlies

Speaking of toys being quintessentially Sextras, this heart-shaped vibrator takes the cake. 

It might not be the most practical, but it’s bright pink and symbolic of the flaming love that happens when two people have sex – or the rapid heartbeat that ensues, at least. 

So Divine Vibrating Stimulator

For: the man wondering why women get to have all the fun

Okay, okay – we admit vibrators tend to lean more towards female pleasure (and for good reason). But that shouldn’t take away from people with a penis getting to take part when they want to; this vibrating stimulator wraps around the shaft and vibrates for their, and their partner’s pleasure.

Smile Makers The Ballerina

For: the friend in need of some toe-curling orgasms

Named for its pointe-shoe shape, the Ballerina gently cups the clit and the outside of the vagina. It can be used hands-free or held against the vulva, making it perfect to incorporate into solo or partnered sex.

Best dildo

The Natural Love Company Tansy G-Curve

For: the vegan, eco-warrior friend

If there’s one thing the Natural Love Company knows, it’s how to create a truly sustainable toy that doesn’t take, but gives, to the planet. Not only do they offer carbon neutral delivery and zero-plastic packaging, but they plant a tree for every order they receive.

Oh, and they make excellent sex toys. The Tansy G-Curve is a seven inch, dual end curved dildo made from body safe glass. If your giftee is the type of person to display their sex toys, this is the perfect addition to their collection. 

As well as doubling as a decoration in its spare time, this dildo adjusts graciously to its surroundings, making it a delightful sensual experience.

Adult advent calendar 

Lovehoney advent calendars

For: the couple looking to explore

Last year, we reviewed the Lovehoney advent calendar on the podcast and, well, we had a hard time deciding which toys to split between us.

This year, Lovehoney’s 12 and 24-day calendars are back, and they’re as enviable as last year – set with wands, vibrators, and anal beads. The 24-day calendar even comes set with the Womaiser, Lovehoney’s infamous air tech clit toy; truly the gift that keeps on giving.

Couples experience

Unplugged digital detox

For: the doomscrolling partner/ the partner on at you for doomscrolling

Three quarters (72%) of couples admit that phubbing – spending too much time on a phone while with a partner – has caused arguments in their relationships in the last two weeks. When you’re constantly working, glued to TikTok, or the latest sports game (could never be me), it’s hard to feel truly connected to your partner.

Unplugged has created a series of digital detox escapes, which provides a three days of designated offline time, along with a phone lockbox and offline activities such as an instant camera, physical map and board games. 

Cabins are available across the UK, around an hour’s drive from major cities. They’ll even mail you your gift card with a personalised message.