Saying No and Setting Boundaries
ft. Morgan Doman
Why set boundaries and how to set boundaries
What boundaries should you be setting? eg. I don’t like touch, don’t treat me as your therapist, stop putting others’ happiness before my own
How do I set those boundaries? (with family, friends, in relationships, at work)
Why is it so hard to say no? How do you start saying no?
How is attachment style linked to people-pleasing?
Why boundaries are important and how to set healthy boundaries
This week, Morgan Doman, a life and clarity coach joins us to talk about saying no, how people pleasing affects our lives and relationships and how to set healthy boundaries. Sometimes it is hard to know how to set a boundary, or even to know there is a boundary to set at all.
Morgan talks us through some ways to go around setting boundaries, as we discuss some of the boundaries that you guys have set in the segment, or boundaries you want to set. We talk about physical boundaries, like being touched, or hugged without warning, and the importance of consent, as well as knowing how to set boundaries with friends when you start feeling like their therapist. We discuss attachments styles and how recognising your attachment style might help you understand what boundaries you might need to set.
Morgan tells us about her experience as a recovering people pleaser who helps people pleasers break out of those habits for a living. We talk about how we're not really taught that we can say no, and so that why we struggle setting boundaries sometimes. Especially as women it can sometimes be hard to know how to say no, or feel pressured to say yes, so Morgan advises us to try to start practising saying no to small things, so you are able to when it matters.
We all admit it's hard to set boundaries, often the boundaries we need to set are for ourselves, or within ourselves, and that's the hardest part. Sometimes, when someone sets a boundary it can feel like rejection you or an attack, when in reality they are trying to make the situation healthier and better for everyone.
Be brave! Go set those boundaries!
You can find Morgan on instagram @morgan.doman and read her blog on her website www.morgandoman.com !
