Best porn, smut and erotica sites by and for womxn
It’s Masturbation May, and as 60% of women admit to watching porn, Honey Wyatt compiles the best audio, written, and visual porn by and for women
For decades, if not centuries, women have been the subject of male desire in porn. Thankfully, we live in a society that is growing ever conscious of the fact that women’s pleasure exists and that should translate to on and off screen.
But in order for this to happen, the sex industry needs to be a safe and ethical environment for female, trans and nonbinary sex workers. This starts not just with the decriminalisation of sex work, but also by paying for ethical porn!
For masturbation May Sextras highlights the best ethical porn sites by and for women, trans and non-binary folx. Whether you’re into audio porn, erotica, smut, or a good old tried and tested video, we’ve got you covered.
Ethical porn
Lustery
Founded by filmmaker and feminist pornographer Paulita Pappel, reality porn site Lustery showcases the sex lives of real couples, without a script or producer. Having acted in amateur porn videos herself, Pappel saw how the sausage got made, and that sausage did not contain much real meat (if you catch my drift).
Putting the camera (literally) in the hands of couples – who might be in a relationship or friends with benefits type-sitch – Lustery videos span the kinks, fantasies and regimes of real couples with a pre-existing connection. Giving the power back to couples, Lustery pushes authenticity and passion to the forefront of porn.
Try a free Lustery subscription for free weekly videos. One month subscription is $25; three months is $15 per month; and 12 months is $8.33 per month.
Cheex
Holding a mirror to reality through its films, Cheex films highlight consensual and pleasurable diverse sexual experiences. Releasing new films each week, Cheex carefully selects its collaborators to ensure its content is female friendly and appeals to everyone outside of the heterosexual male gaze.
Featuring content from award winning producers like Erika Lust, Joybear and Aorta, Cheex centres real couples doing what they love, how they love to do it.
If audio isn’t for you, Cheex also offers audio erotica, guided masturbations, and educational audios as well as its magazine, which tells stories of those in the porn industry itself.
Cheex is £188.80 per year, or £14.90 per month. Subscribe here.
AORTA films
We’re all sick of seeing overproduced, stereotypical depictions of sex. Run by queer and trans folx, Aorta films produces short videos and art films that showcase performers with a whole range of bodies and identities.
In over 85 videos, award-winning Aorta explores sex in a range of contexts and formats, from threesome videos to experimental art films that fantasise about embarking on a date with leather boots.
The film studio prioritises consent and positive working conditions, collaborating with performers to ensure their pronouns, boundaries and health are respected and protected during filming.
One month memberships are £15; three months are £38 and a year is £76. To top it all off, Aorta has 30% off all their subscriptions for Masturbation May. Become a member here.
Sssh.com
Creating feminist porn for women and couples, Sssh films are inspired by its members’ fantasies and desires. Founded by adult film pioneer Angie Rowntree, Sssh has been running since 1999 and now features over 500 sex positive, independently produced films that centre around the female experience.
Sssh also hosts erotic fiction, sex education articles and a virtual world that allows users to watch films from a 360 perspective, without a VR headset.
Trial Sssh.com for two days at $4.95; one month is $19.95; three months is $54.95; and one year is $99.95. Join here.
Guided masturbation
Kama
Lots of us will know that masturbation is often a rushed job – a quick one and done and get it over with. On a mission to make sexual wellness a part of our daily routines, Kama is host to bitesize videos that will amp up your masturbation game and sex life by “connecting their mind, body and heart”.
Like you’re taking the best yoga class of your life, Kama’s guided masturbation audios are led by your choice of sultry-toned voices, who guide you through incorporating breathwork to reach your “peak” or, if you feel like it, to orgasm.
I used these alone and with a partner. While I might have been initially sceptical, these audios changed my understanding of breath as crucial to sexual pleasure and encouraged me to re-evaluate masturbation as an act of self care.
Designed by sex coaches, therapists and sexologists, Kama also offers educational videos that are ideal for anyone looking to level up their partnered sex skills or deepen intimacy in their relationships. Learn how to master blowjobs, delve into anal play or even how to use intentional touch as foreplay.
Kama offers a free seven day trial. Subscriptions are $12.99 a month or $59.99 a year. Try it here.
Guided by Glow
It’s easy to fall into a routine with our masturbation or sex lives. Designed to awaken the sexual imagination, Guided by Glow features over 150 sexual meditations to unite the mind and body in pleasure.
Focused on female, non-binary and queer experiences, Guided by Glow offers soundscapes that encourage users to relax, drop into their bodies and tap into their sexual desires, all while being guided through a masturbation.
Subscribe for Guided by Glow for $12.99 per month or $59.99 per year here.
Audio porn
Quinn
If Spotify had an audio porn app, it would be Quinn. Designed to look like the least suspecting porn site you’ve ever seen, Quinn offers porn across over 5,000 categories – just like any porn site – except it’s audio erotica. There are categories for every mood and scenario from soft dom to degradation, friends to lovers and “finish inside me”.
New to audio porn or looking for a quickie after work? There’s a category for that. Or maybe you’re not looking for words to be involved at all – in which case the ‘masturbation noises’ category has you covered.
Quinn carefully vets its creators, who have the ability to upload erotic content anonymously or spearhead their own personal brands by forming communities across channels and forums. Users can create playlists to tune in to their favourite voices, which include featured actors like You’s Victoria Pedretti and Poldark’s Tom York, across a range of formats, from short form guided masturbation to longer form audio book-style erotica.
Try Quinn for $4.99 per month here.
Vibes Only
The brain child of hosts of fellow sex and relationships podcast Girls Gotta Eat (one of Honey and Maria’s faves), Vibes Only is a sexual wellness brand that offers silicone sex toys and an accompanying app that syncs your toy to the trajectory of audio erotica.
Sharing is caring in so many ways, so for those in long distance relationships, the app allows your lover to take control of the experience from afar; users can also share video snippets with friends outside of the app. Vibes Only even has educational videos that offer tips on stimulating the erogenous zones, exploring kink for beginners or how to date.
Vibes Only is available for everyone – owners of its toys and otherwise. Trial it free for three days or subscribe for $7.99 a month or $49.99 a year here.
BLOOM
Adding a new dimension to your audio porn habits, BLOOM offers the chance to really get down and dirty with its erotica characters. Not only does the platform feature over 1000 stories and guided masturbations, but it also uses AI to embed a chatbot for users to connect with their favourite characters from its stories. Send steamy texts, or use its perfected AI voice messaging feature to feel like you’re having phone sex with one of its voice actors.
Premium subscribers are given the chance to submit their fantasies to the writing team, meaning one of your dirtiest desires could become its very own audio erotica story. Valuing the coming and going trends of sex, BLOOM also regularly asks for feedback from its users to know how it can best tailor stories to their fantasies and ensure users and voice actors feel respected and included in their mission.
BLOOM offers a free subscription that gives access to a selection of free stories each month, or subscribe for one month at $29.95; three months at $19.95 per month; and 12 months at $10.95 per month. Try it here.
Dipsea
Reclaiming the female gaze, Dipsea brings romantic fiction to life in over 1000 spicy audiobooks. Founded by friends Gina Gutierrez and Faye Keegan, the platform was created to fill a gap in the erotica market by forming a platform for stories written by and for womxn to appeal to their deepest fantasies.
Working with female producers, writers and sound engineers, Dispea creates a unique sexy audiomatic universe that offers users a chance to really play the long game by delving into long form audiobooks or written erotica.
Choose your favourite genre – from historical smut, to vampire fantasy, or greek mythology – or keep coming (ahem) back to the same characters across multiple chapters to build up a mental connection with them.
For those looking for a shorter experience before bed, Dipsea also has a range of calming soundscapes or sleep over audios that help you wind down before bed.
Trial Dipsea for 30 days free here. Annual subscriptions are $69.99 (hehe) per year, which comes out as $5.83 per month.
Emjoy
Created by therapists and OB-GYNs, Emjoy features over 600 erotic audio stories. Mixing mindfulness and sex education with erotica to provide a tailored experience to suit users’ sexual needs.
Upon downloading the app, answer a series of questions to indicate where you’re at on your sexual wellbeing journey, and Emjoy will suggest a series of content to help you meet your sexual goals.
For those who have been out of the game for a while, or simply wish they knew a thing or two more about sex or their bodies, Emjoy’s expert-backed content seems like a great place to start reconnecting with your sexuality.
Download Emjoy for here. Subscriptions cost £10.99 a month.
Erotica
Aurore
Encouraging your sexual imagination is erotica site Aurore. Curated by founder Carly Pifer, the site showcases erotica written by women and queer people based on their real-life sexual experiences.
Pifer started writing down her sex stories as a challenge to herself, and soon realised a gap in the porn market – smut that reflects what really happens in our sexual encounters, from the intricacies of our turn-ons and fantasies, to the insecurities and awkwardness of the moment that makes sex authentic and exciting.
An alternative to the realm of visual porn, Aurore inspires its readers – and writers – to monumentalise their most sensual experiences and visualise their fantasies away from a screen.
“My favourite stories are the stories that are more than sex, and that really tell you about the people and let you in on their inner lives and their day to day routines, their secrets, scars, tattoos,” Pifer told Sextras. “I love being able to be in somebody’s encounter and relationship.”
Aurore costs $8.99 per month or $69 per year, find taster stories here.
By price
Quinn - $4.99 per month
Dipsea - $5.83 per month
Vibes Only - $7.99 per month
Aurore - $8.99 per month
BLOOM - From $10.95
Emjoy - £10.99 per month
Guided by Glow - $12.99 per month
Kama - $12.99 per month
Cheex - £14.90 per month
AORTA films - £15 for one month
Sssh.com - $19.95 for one month
Lustery - $25.99 for one month
By free trial length
BLOOM - limited access free subscription
Lustery - limited access free subscription
Aurore - limited access free subscription
Dipsea - 30 days
Quinn - 7 days
Guided by Glow - 7 days
Kama - 7 days
Cheex - 7 days with discount code
Vibes Only - 3 days
Emjoy - none
AORTA - none
Sshh.com - none