EYNTK about the G-spot, U-spot, A-spot, and O-spot
No, the G-spot isn’t that movie with all the hamsters. But it clearly remains a mystery to many, so Kelley Nele unpacks each of the erogenous zones, from where they are how to stimulate them.
Doggy is one of the best sex positions for stimulating the G-spot
The debate on whether the G-spot is real has been a hot topic for a while now. Some experts assert that the G-spot is real and that it provides the best orgasms ever, while others claim it’s simply a myth.
Let’s get one thing straight, the G-spot is real and the orgasms it provides can be earth-shattering, but it’s not the only highly arousing spot there is.
For years the G-spot has been the Beyoncé of the group; overshadowing all the other spots to the point where we don’t even know or remember their names.
Well, allow me to officially introduce you to these other spots (aka erogenous zones): the U-spot, A-spot and the O-spot.
You may be wondering, ‘Why so many spots? And what do they have in common?’
In her book titled Smart Sex, Dr Emily Morse makes it clear that these spots “simply describe various locations on the interior walls of the vaginal canal”. When stimulated, they provide pleasurable sensations and facilitate orgasms for many people with vulvas.
Here’s a taster of what you need to know about how to make the most of each of the erogenous zones during sex.
G-spot
What is the G-spot?
According to Heathline, the G-spot—also known as the Gräfenberg spot or G-area—is “not a separate part of anatomy, but a part of the larger clitoral network”. This means that when you’re stimulating the G-spot, you’re actually stimulating the clitoris, which is so much more than the pea-shaped structure above the vulva.
Where is the G-spot?
The G-spot is generally located about two inches inside the vagina, below the Skene’s glands (the female equivalent of a prostate). Its exact location – and size – may vary from vulva to vulva, which explains why it’s so difficult to locate for many people.
A common way of finding the G-spot is when you feel a ridged texture, although it’s important to know that not everyone has this ridged texture.
“Knowledge of these areas can provide a fun jumping-off point to experiment, but don’t be surprised if you don’t orgasm”
How to stimulate the G-spot
Once located and stimulated, the G-spot provides an intense vagina orgasm which can result in squirting (yes, squirting is real too).
Generally, the best way to stimulate the G-spot is to insert a well-lubricated finger (or two) about two inches into the vagina, and make use of the come hither motion. You can also use a sex toy that’s angled upward and designed to stimulate the G-spot if you’re having a hard time locating it.
The best positions to stimulate the G-spot are cowgirl, closed missionary and doggy style.
With closed missionary;
Lie on your back and place your legs straight, as close together as possible
Let your partner straddle you and insert their penis or dildo
U-spot
Where is the U-spot?
The U in U-spot stands for urethra. It is situated on the vulva between the clitoris and the vaginal opening. Depending on the shape of your vulva, you might have to spread your inner or outer labia to find it.
How to stimulate the U-spot
You can stimulate the U-spot by rubbing well lubricated fingers on it, rubbing the tip of the penis on it or using a lower-intensity vibrator like a bullet vibe. This area is particularly sensitive so be gentle and apply as little pressure as possible.
For the best U-spot stimulation during partnered sex, use the lifted missionary and cowgirl positions.
With cowgirl;
Mount the giver’s penis or dildo.
Find a rhythm that works for you and your partner.
Use a toy or your finger to stimulate the U-spot simultaneously.
A-spot and O-spot
Where is the A-spot?
The A in A-spot stands for anterior fornix. It is seated about four to six inches inside the vagina, alongside the cervix, under the belly button.
Again, everyone’s clitoral network is not the same therefore the location will vary.
According to Heathline, “the A spot doesn’t have a different texture than the rest of the vaginal canal, however it may feel softer or spongier when you apply pressure.”
Where is the O-spot?
There are conflicting opinions on what the term O-spot means and whether it’s real, however Dr Emily Morse considers it real.
According to Dr Morse, “the O-spot is a spongy tissue on the back wall of the vagina, behind the cervix”.
How to stimulate the A-spot and O-spot
The A-spot can be stimulated vaginally, using the same come hither motion, or during anal play. Using fingers to stimulate this area may not always work as they can be too short. If this is the case, use a toy designed to stimulate this area.
Any position that offers deep penetration is best suited for A-spot stimulation; cowgirl, lifted missionary, and doggy.
With doggy;
Position yourself on all fours with your partner behind you.
Have them enter through the vagina or anus and shift your hips back to draw them in deeper.
Create a slow rocking motion that allows them to hit your A-spot with each thrust.
Similar to the A-spot, the O-spot can be stimulated during vaginal anal play using the same techniques and positions.
While the erogenous zones (G-spot, we’re looking at you) can often be hyped up as the be-and-end-all of sexual pleasure, it’s important to remember they’re simply a tool in your sexual toolbox.
Suzannah Weiss, resident sexologist for the pleasure product Biird states that “the establishment of these regions as pleasurable or orgasmic comes more from anecdotal evidence and self-report than scientific studies”.
“So, while knowledge of these areas can provide a fun jumping-off point to experiment, don’t be surprised if you don’t orgasm –or feel much at all – through stimulation of all these places, and don’t believe that anything is wrong with you if this is the case.”
No orgasm facilitated by any of these spots is superior to the other.
Plenty of people with vulvas may enjoy the stimulation from one spot and find another completely uncomfortable or too intense. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is your preference.
Whatever that may be, remember to take your time exploring these areas and make use of lots of lube. Happy exploring ;)