• What do you think about when you masturbate? Do your watch porn?

• Talk about the effects of masturbating and watching porn

• How our sexual fantasies impact our sex lives

What do you think about when you masturbate? This week we’re talking all about watching porn and masturbating, or alternatively, imagining our sexual fantasies when we masturbate, as well as the ethics of watching porn.

We begin the episode by asking our followers what they think about or watch when they masturbate, and if they remember the first time they masturbated. In true Sextras fashion, we look back at how our ideas about masturbating and porn were formed, from the first time we saw porn (whether by accident or on purpose) to not realising what we were doing was masturbating at a young age.

We delve into our own sexual fantasies and whether watching porn and masturbating sets unrealistic expectations for sex. We also talk about whether we personally enjoy watching porn, and what our problems with porn are. Unfortunately, as women, we have experienced guys basing their sexual fantasies around what they’ve seen in porn and attempting to recreate that, and so we try to unpack if porn is bad for our sex lives or not.

We all have sexual fantasies, and it’s important to let them play out and have fun sex lives, but at the same time we need to be really mindful of whether or not porn is bad for relationships with those we have sex with and with women, or anyone who’s negatively impacted by how they’re portrayed in porn, in the world around us.