Queerness + dating with BPD

• Kabir shares their experience with living with BPD

• Discuss the ways in which managing relationships with BPD can be challenging

• Hear Kabir’s experience with growing up queer

BPD and relationships

This week we speak to our wonderful guest Kabir about their experience with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and how BPD affects relationships. We also discuss being queer, how this relates to having BPD and what their experience was like growing up.

We begin by hearing how BPD affects Kabir’s daily life, and what BPD feels like, before getting into how Kabir’s relationships have been formulated and impacted by having BPD and being queer. We hear a little bit about what dating with BPD has looked like for Kabir, and they tell us that casual dating with BPD can be difficult, and how embracing their queerness has been instrumental in learning to know and love themself for who they truly are.
Growing up with any type of mental illness or personality disorder can be difficult, and it can be made more difficult when you’re very visibly queer, especially as a brown person in a predominantly white, straight, and rich circle of West London. Kabir tells us about how their embodiment of queerness growing up was somewhat protective, and how this impacted their relationships with those around them. Ultimately, though, we agree that being queer is more empowering than anything else, and we wouldn’t have it any other way, before ending by hearing what Kabir wants their relationships to look like going forwards.

Thank you so much to Kabir for being our first guest in our studio, and for sharing your story. It was a pleasure to have you.

You can listen to them on Back From The Borderline here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/gender-identity-sexuality-abusive-parents-with-no/id1576242501?i=1000533250805

or find them on Instagram @kabir_khurana