Break Up Lessons Learnt
What lessons have our followers learnt from break ups?
What should you do after a break up? How to heal and reflect when getting over a break up
Dealing with feeling guilty after a break up, what not to do
This week we’re talking all about the lessons learnt from breakups. When you’re going through a break up it can seem like it will never end, and you’ll most likely be in a place of thinking this is the most pain you’ve ever been in, but we promise once you get through that stage (and it will end!) you’ll be able to see all the things you learnt in both the relationship and the break up. We also cover what we think should happen in the aftermath of the break up, from whether you should follow the no contact rule, to if the person who breaks up with you owes you an apology.
We begin the episode with a segment where we hear the lessons you guys have learnt from a breakup, before telling you our own lessons. We try to explain how our experiences have been very different: Honey has exclusively broken up with people, and Maria has exclusively been broken up with, so we divulge the different ways we have reflected on the relationship after a break up, as well as attempting to unpack how we move through stages of grief in a breakup, like blaming the other person and then thinking you’ve made a mistake; trying to cling on to them and not wanting to move on.
We then discuss the conversations you have, and what not to do after a break up— such as whether or not to text your ex or if you should stay friends with an ex. We have a couple of other episodes about break ups— ‘Can You Be Friends With An Ex?’ & ‘The Break Up Process’— where we get more into these topics, but we wanted to talk a bit more about the idea of what is owed, or what some people think is owed to them, when one person ends the relationship, the idea of blame and self reflection in attempts to learn something about yourself after a relationship ends.
We hope you enjoyed the episode! If you’re going through a break up, you can do this! You’ll eventually reach a stage of realising there is so much to take from a relationship, and we hope some of our tips help.