• What does it feel like for people with penises to masturbate or get a handjob? Do they enjoy it?

• Do people with vulvas enjoy being fingered? Do they enjoy clitoral stimulation or penetration

• Would our listeners rather get a handjob/ be fingered by someone else or do it themselves?

• How important are fingering and handjobs to our sex lives? Do people value them, as a part of sex and how can we change the conversations around them to show how important foreplay is for women?

In this episode we get deep into developing a philosophy for fingering and handjobs. We attempt to unpack whether handjobs are something any penis-owning person enjoys, or thinks someone else can do better than them, and try to understand their place in sex as a whole.

We begin with some polls where we ask people with penises about their handjob preferences and people with vulvas about their fingering preferences (namely whether they prefer clitoral or penetrative fingering). Then, we move on to the different roles fingering and handjobs play in sex, and debate which is harder (ha) skill-wise for people to do. Finally, we give some tips for fingering and handjobs and foreplay as a whole.

We hope you enjoy this episode, we think it gives a rather accurate insight into what is going on in our brains, and attempting to establish an understanding of what penis-owning people are thinking.

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