Is quality more important than quantity?

• Do our listeners care more about quality or quantity of sex?

• What qualifies as ‘quality’ sex?

• Is it good to have a high body count? Does it matter?

• What makes someone better at sex?

Why choose quantity of sex over quality?

This week we're debating the hot issue of what's better for sex: quantity or quality?

We begin the episode with a few polls where we asked 'Would you rather have ok sex every day or have really good sex once a week?' to which 95% said really good sex once a week; 'What makes someone a better fuck- to have lots of sex with different people or to have lots of sex with one person? to which 74% of people said lots of sex with one person; 'Does your partner's body count matter to you?' to which 87% of people said no; lastly 'Has your best sex been in a one night stands or in a long term thing?' to which 84% of people said in a long term thing.

We then move on to discussing what quantity or quality of sex might mean. We're conflicted about the issue of quantity as we know it can cause some unnecessary competition when you're younger, with wanting to raise your body count, which is a big part of lad culture and toxic masculinity. On the other hand, for some people one night stands give them an idea of what more people are into and they can then try those things out if they have regular sex with one person- so quantity becomes quality. Also, we decide that sex is never that bad unless it is really terrible, so quantity without quality isn't a complete possibility.

Then, we discuss quality, which we decide includes cumming, or a good effort on both parts to make the other cum, and for both people to have a good time and try a few spicy things out along the way. Good sex is addictive: when sex is good with one person, it's hard to look back at how you ever accepted sex that was less than quality, and you raise your standards. We’ve decided we’re raising our standards and not making any more excuses more not getting the most we can out of sex. At the same time, asking for what you want during sex and enforcing quality can be way harder than it seems, so we have to take it step by step to get to the point of being able to communicate what we want.

Ultimately, we decide quantity and quality are not necessarily mutually exclusive, and which you prefer really depends how much sex is enough for you. We know some people don't need to have sex every day and others are okay with not cumming every time (but we obviously shouldn't make excuses for men who make no effort.)

Go forth! Have sex in quantity and quality (but maybe don't go for quantity at the total expense of quality).

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