• Read out our followers’ answers to ‘I knew we could never date when…’ (ie. when they realised their fuck buddy or friend with benefits would not become something more)

• Debate the difference between friends with benefits and fuck buddies, deciding that friends with benefits are usually friends before and so have higher stakes, and then ask ‘can friends with benefits work?’

• Tell our own experiences with friends with benefits and fuck buddies and how to deal with these situations

The terms ‘friends with benefits’ and ‘fuck buddy’ have come to exist to describe the complex relationship between two people who are having sex but not in a relationship. Romantic relationships can often be emotionally taxing, whilst one night stands can be messy and frankly, you often have bad sex. In this episode we give you a fuck buddies and friends with benefits 101, covering all the dos and don’ts and how to navigate sleeping with your friend.

We begin by hearing how our listeners knew that they couldn’t date someone seriously, ranging from immaturity to bad table manners.

We go on to talk about sleeping with your friends and how that is different from having a fuck buddy: friends with benefits are often friends before, and therefore the stakes are higher; whereas you might have no emotional connection to your fuck buddy, or they might have that fatal flaw that means you know you could never date. We ask whether friends with benefits really works in practice, as often someone gets jealous or catches feelings, and expose where we’ve gone wrong in the past with people we’ve slept with.

Go forth, have sex, and find the arrangement that works for you!