ft. Manny the Matchmaker

How to find the right person for you

• What kind of person do you tend to date?

• How is the alpha-beta-omega scale helpful when dating?

• How can toxic masculinity affect relationships and dating?

• How men in particular can accept who they are

You will never find the right person if you don’t accept the kind of person you are

This week we're joined by Manny, past matchmaker and relationship coach to talk about finding the right person for you, based on what you want from a relationship and whether you have an alpha, beta, or omega personality.

We begin the episode with two segments where we asked our listeners 'What are your dating pet peeves?,' including men paying for dates being normalised and awkward conversations before sex; and 'What's the most unbelievable or ridiculous thing someone has said or done to you on a date?,' including guys admitting they take their condoms with them and thinking feminism is a reason a woman rejects someone.

We then move on to hearing about Manny's career, and how he got into matchmaking and then relationship coaching. Manny tells us how he tries to help people find the right person for them, as that is often the biggest thing people struggle with in relationships. Often people go for those who are nothing like them and want completely different things, which dooms their relationship for failure. Manny has a theory called the emotional alpha scale that helps people look for the right person for them based on whether their personality is alpha, beta, or omega. He explains that omega, alpha or beta personalities are not specific to men or women, and that none of them are negative even though beta is used to insult men a lot of the time.

We then discuss toxic masculinity and how men feel as though they have to be an alpha male because of the way their parents raised them or the messages they get from society about what 'masculinity' should look like. So many men try to be an alpha male when they're not, which Manny calls the 'constant quest for manhood.' This means so many men don't know what they want or really struggle to come to terms with the fact that they're an omega or a beta. In reality all being a 'man' really is is honouring who you are. But no matter whether you're alpha, beta, or omega the most important thing is to be true to yourself and find the right person for you and what you want out of a relationship.

You can find Manny on @iammannysantana on TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, Clubhouse and Instagram, on www.mannysantana.com and information about his book and his masterclasses on www.secretsoftheguycode.com, or you can email him at coaching@mannysantana.com- he'd love to hear from you!

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